Leaving the country without daughter, she’s with Dad

Written by Alli Price

A year or so ago I wrote a blog post on Leaving the Country with Daughter, not with Dad. It was all about the struggle I was experiencing with moving to Oz with my daughter and leaving her Dad behind.

Now it’s my turn. I am two days away from leaving the UK for Oz and my daughter will be staying with her Dad for three months. In the lead up, whenever I told anyone about the arrangements for my daughter’s care this year I was always greeted with the same question ‘Are you going to be okay with that?’

I was. If I was feeling sad, imagine how her Dad was feeling spending so much time away from her. I could only imagine. And then there was Amelie. In the three months preceding this trip she had become increasingly upset at being apart from her Dad and would often cry whilst looking at his picture, heart beaking stuff.

When we got to the UK airport the reunion between the two of them nearly made me cry. I was so happy that Amelie was so happy. So happy I was able to do this for them.

The following few days have been harder. I have basically been rejected by her 80% of the time – wanting to sit on Daddy’s knee, not mine, wanting to watch movies with Daddy, not me. Although I know she’s loving the fact that she’s near him again it’s hard when I know I’ll be leaving in a few days and can’t get a look in. All I want to do is cuddle my little girl as much as possible but all she wants are cuddles from Daddy.

So it’s a tough situation to be in – tough for all of us – and it’s not ever going to get any easier. We’ve all cried and now it’s my turn. I know I certainly will be when I have to force myself to walk away from my little girl and return home without her.

Cheers, Alli x

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9 Responses to Leaving the country without daughter, she’s with Dad

  1. Bella says:

    You know what I like the most about this … that you’re both respecting each other as parents. I don’t believe that mothers are automatically the *best* choice all the time … I feel for fathers who are left out … I think you are great to be so unselfish and think of what she needs first. Good on you. Seriously I think you are awesome. I’m late to the party with this comment, but I felt I must say something. Not that you need my approval! xx

  2. Melissa Hood says:

    Alli, this nearly broke my heart. I guess you’re coming to the end of the three months now and must really be looking forward to having your daughter back.I know only too well how difficult it is to have children on the other side of the world. Two of mine are in the UK -the youngest having just opted to go back there to study. Of course they’re a lot older than yours but you never stop caring about them even when you’re not with them.
    How generous of you to make it possible for your daughter and her father to have this time together -it will pay dividends for your future relationship with her and make life easier with him too.

    • Alli says:

      That ‘s so lovely of you Melissa, thanks for the fab message. Everyone asks me how I am but I am just so loving seeing her having amazing time with her Dad – it warms the heart x

  3. Norlin says:

    Oh Alli, it’s tough having to do that, and I really don’t think I can say anything to make it better. But just this *hugs*

  4. Krys says:

    Oh Alli, that’s so tough. I hope you’re getting skype, etc. in place so that you can stay connected.

  5. I shed a tear reading this, Alli. I can’t begin to imagine what you’re going through. xx

  6. Leah Gibbs says:

    Oh Ali, I feel your pain. Heart wrenching stuff.

    This is going to be one of the hardest things you will ever have to do.

    I don’t have any advice for you except my heart and thoughts are with you.

  7. Kelly Exeter says:

    Oh Alli :( I can only imagine how tough the right now is, as well as how hard the next few months will be. It’s lovely that your husband is getting this time to spend with his little girl though.

    All I can say is ‘stay busy’ (which I am sure you won’t have any problem doing!) and those three months will fly!

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